Mom Wins: February 2020

In the midst of dealing with some “stuff”, I’ve been trying to see the good in things. And taking note of a Mom Win is the perfect way to do that! Even at the bottom of your darkest day as a wife, mother, and woman-extraordinaire, let’s work to remember that we’re KILLING IT. And we have to celebrate that! And this is how Mom Wins came to be.

I maintained control when my daughter was being a monster.

I’ve always struggled with my temper. My patience fuse is pretty short, and I’ve worked for many years to increase the length of it. You can imagine that having kids triggers my temper in ways that I never thought possible. Every day is a struggle for me, to be a good mom and to not lash out at my kids when they don’t deserve it.

So today, my Mom Win is that I controlled my temper. It wasn’t even that it was just under control, I literally didn’t react at all when Miri went on a total tirade this morning when we were getting ready for school. She was whining (my biggest trigger), being defiant, hitting and doing every other annoying thing you can imagine a 4 year old would do.

I have to say that Azi really threw me a bone because he was a complete angel this morning, and he typically will feed off of Miri’s energy to join in with her shenanigans. But this morning was different.

I simply ignored Miri’s whine and defiance.

I went about my morning, like everything was normal, ignoring Miri’s acting out. I kept an even tone of voice, and I got Azi dressed. All the while, I responded to Miri’s whining in a normal voice so she couldn’t see that I was as worked up as I was on the inside. I found that by keeping an even tone of voice, I actually felt calmer than I normally would have been in this situation.

She definitely gets it from her mama. Anyone who knows me, will tell you this. **Yikes!

After about 25 minutes of this nightmare, but without a reaction from me, Miri kind of gave up. And we were all able to walk happily to school together, and we didn’t speak about her actions. I just let it go.

I am so proud of how I handled it this morning. It definitely doesn’t happen every time, but that’s what’s so great about these Mom Wins. We’re celebrating even a one in a million win. Because if you put a million “one in a millions” together, then you get 1 million wins.